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Why you should afford your lifestyle before you consider that relationship.

By Terry Petla
There’s this belief I have. It is just one of many. You will hear a lot about each one of them from now on. I just can’t, for the life of me, start a relationship or feel comfortable in one unless I can afford my lifestyle. There is something about “tying” on someone to get me something that I can’t afford on my own that just rubs me the wrong way. What do you mean that I have to go out of my way to do unbecoming things just to pull your leg to get me what I want? 

Don’t get me wrong, I am not squashing your need to ask for help. If anything, do it a lot. It takes a lot of mental strain off you. Lovely, I am talking about that desperate thought train of God, if it’s not him there’s no way I’m going to get that, and especially if it leads you to do things that you would never do on an average day. That’s dangerous, I find it very dangerous. It is very peaceful to go on a date and pick whatever the hell you want to eat off the menu without worrying about the bill. Without shaking in your boots or having sweaty palms when they ask for the bill for in case he wants to go Dutch. It is very peaceful to pick calls whenever you want and take all the alone time you need without worrying about being constantly available just because you want to please him. It is very peaceful to do all the hairstyles you want in the world without banking on his money to get it done for you. Most importantly, it’s very empowering to stand up in the middle of that date and leave if you feel disrespected and not putting up with it because you’re banking on the “transport money” to get you home.

Girl, get your money right. Focus on you. Love you. The moment you do this, you’ll realize that you are in those relationships and friendships because you want to, and not because you need to. That in itself is such an underrated blessing. 

Till you read again, bye.
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