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To love without the ties.

By Terry Petla
As I watch this beautiful sun from the window of my room this afternoon, I can't help but think of love and the people I love and the different ways in which I love them. Do you even realize that you love your people differently? I don't know how many ways there are, I'm here to talk about those I know. 

There are people I love enough to talk to everyday. There are those I go a while without a text or a call but when we talk? Oh boy, distance and time just has nothing on us. There are people I love to gift. Getting them things or taking care of them gives me the greatest pleasure. There are people I love to touch. I love to hug them, hold their hand or even literally lean against them while having a conversation. And there's this very special category that I want to talk the most about; the people I love just because I love them. 
See, all these relationships I talked about up there are maintained or nurtured by something. The physical touch, the gifts, the calls, the talking but with the people I love because I love them? It seems to transcend all the love languages there are. There's not a thing they have to do for me to love them, I just do. And I think I forever will. If I had a tail, it would wag happily whenever I saw or heard from them every single time without tiring.

A couple of weeks ago, I picked a call from a long long long lost human and they were asking me if I still loved them. Haha. Their definition of love is the kind you don't have to nurture, the kind where you leave and return at your convenience and it is there waiting, regardless of how long they have been away. I went through several stages after being asked that question. First was disbelief, I just couldn't stomach the audacity. You knew I loved you and you were nonchalant about it and now... Second was anger. Third was pity because what he's looking for exists. I actually love some people in the very way he's looking for. But unfortunately it's pure luck to find it I could say. For most relationships you need to communicate, you need to buy the gifts, you need to see them often else there's no "love". 

So here's a toast to love without the ties. I don't know how further to describe it for you who hasn't experienced it. For one who has, it's a whole language beyond words and we don't really have to give it any. Cheers. 

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