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"Slow down, you crazy child" 🎶

By Terry Petla
"Slow down, you're doing fine. You can't be everything you wanna be before your time.." 
~Vienna by Billy Joel 
                         

At the end of the day, when I feel tempted to beat myself up for not landing at least an interview, I can't help but be grateful for a thousand little things. 

I have a beautiful place I call home, a roof over my head. Parents who don't nag about not finding a job immediately after school. There's no pressure to get married yet, they understand the need to get my life right before I consider even that relationship. I have boundless choices; what to eat, what to cook, where to go, who to talk to. I'm healthy. I have that one friend I can hold literally any conversation with, no matter how wild or crazy. And so much more. 

I understand that the pressure to figure out what to do with this life is crazy. There are a lot of things we are "supposed" to have. A prestigious job. A wide network of gamba nogu. Certain phone brands. Your own luxurious place. Try to fill in the gaps, it's an inexhaustible list. I don't know how to go on from here, so I'll leave it at that.

My point is.. calm down. I know we need the money, I know we need the jobs. I know we are dying to own that latest brand. I know. But breathe, you're okay. You have a comfy and warm bed to sleep in tonight. You have that friend you can call. There's more to life than all these things. Pace yourself and be grateful at the very least for the fact that you can breathe without life support.


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